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This week we want to talk about setbacks and resistance to potty-training.  

Setbacks are an inevitable and entirely normal part of the potty-training process, a fact that can often be overshadowed by the initial excitement of progress.  

However, these regressions, whether they manifest as frequent accidents or outright resistance, can be frustrating. We'll examine practical techniques for addressing resistance, understanding the underlying causes that may contribute to setbacks, and, most importantly, how to maintain a consistent and positive approach to your potty-training journey.  

Patience and understanding are necessary tools to have on this journey.  We aim to help you and your child successfully get over the inevitable bumps in the road and ultimately achieve your potty-training goals. 

Why Do Setbacks Happen?  

Resistance during potty-training often arises from a mix of emotions, stemming from a child feeling pressure, an underlying fear, or simple frustration with the process itself.  

For a young child, the act of using the toilet represents a significant developmental leap, and the anxieties associated with this transition can turn into reluctance or outright refusal.  

Beyond these internal factors, external life changes can also play a substantial role in triggering temporary setbacks.  

The introduction of new routines, such as starting daycare or preschool, can disrupt a child's established sense of normalcy, leading to regression in previously learned behaviors.  

Similarly, family transitions, such as the arrival of a new sibling, a move to a new home, or even changes in parental work schedules, can create a sense of instability that contributes to potty-training challenges.  

These external stressors can cause a child's attention and energy to turn away from potty-training, making it crucial for parents to approach these situations with increased patience and understanding, recognizing that these setbacks are often temporary and require a supportive and adaptable approach. 

 How to Handle Resistance:  

• Stay Calm: Acknowledge your child's feelings without pressure. Sometimes, a short break can help.  

Maintaining a calm and composed demeanor is paramount when addressing potty-training resistance. Begin by acknowledging and validating your child's feelings without resorting to pressure or coercion. A simple, empathetic statement like, "I understand you're feeling a little nervous about the potty," can help build trust and reduce anxiety. Sometimes, the most effective approach is to take a short break from formal potty-training, allowing both you and your child to reset and approach the process with renewed patience. 

• Positive Reinforcement: Praise their efforts, even small ones. Rewards can be a great motivator.  

Consistently praise your child's efforts, no matter how small. Celebrate every successful attempt, every instance of communication, and even just their willingness to sit on the potty. Consider implementing a reward system, using stickers, small toys, or extra playtime as motivators. These rewards should focus on effort rather than solely on success, fostering a sense of accomplishment and encouraging continued participation. We stress this in almost every newsletter because it is an important tool to help your child’s journey.  

• Make it Fun: 

Finally, transform potty time from a chore into an enjoyable experience. Incorporate games, sing silly songs, or introduce favorite toys to make the process more engaging and less daunting. Consider reading stories about potty training or using a potty-training chart with colorful stickers. By associating positive experiences with potty time, you can create a more relaxed and playful atmosphere, ultimately making the journey less stressful for both you and your child. 

Parent Story: One parent from our Potty-Training Toddlers - Real Tips from Real Parents shared their experience with us: 

“When moving into a new home we were shocked how quickly our son regressed. He was not fully potty-trained when we moved, but he was successfully using the potty for pee. We were still working on him going poop. When we moved, he wanted nothing to do with the potty-training at all. He would fight us on it and it because very stressful. My husband and I decided that we would take a break from potty-training to get our lives in order and let our little man take a breather. We took about two weeks off from bringing up potty-training and slowly started to reintroduce potty-training again with positive reinforcement and new rewards. After a few days he was back on track!”  

 Tip of the Week: Remember that every child progresses at their own pace. If your child shows resistance, take a step back, give them some space, and try again in a few days with a more relaxed approach.  

Potty training, in particular, is a milestone that should be approached with patience and understanding, recognizing that there is no one-size-fits-all timeline. Should your child exhibit resistance, whether through tears, refusal, or accidents, it's essential to resist the urge to push or pressure. 

We hope this information is helping you gain confidence and knowledge while working with your little ones. Stay tuned for our next newsletter!

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