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It's a comforting truth that even the most prepared parents make mistakes during potty training. But don't worry! This week, we'll be focusing on common pitfalls and sharing expert advice designed to help you steer clear of them. 

Mistake #1: Starting Too Early 

Why It's a Pitfall:  

Potty-training a child too early can lead to various issues, including toilet avoidance, constipation, urinary tract infections, and even potential long-term health problems. While some children may be developmentally ready for potty-training earlier than others, forcing the process before they are ready can create more problems than it solves. 

Here are some potential downsides to keep in mind: 

• Toilet Avoidance: If kids are pushed to potty train before they're ready, they might get scared or anxious about using the toilet and try to avoid it completely. 

• Possible Bladder Problems Later On: Some studies suggest that starting potty training really early (like before age two) might mean kids end up with smaller bladders, which could lead to issues with bladder control later in life. 

• Stress for Your Child: Pressuring a child to potty train before they're developmentally ready can cause them stress and anxiety, and that's not good for their overall well-being. 

Signs a child is not ready for potty training: 

• Frequent wet or dirty diapers. 

• Inability to stay dry for more than 2 hours. 

• Difficulty removing diapers or pants on their own. 

• No interest in using the toilet. 

• Hard or impacted bowel movements. 

How to Navigate It: 

• Watch for the Signs: The most important thing is to look for clear signs that your child is actually ready, like staying dry for longer and showing curiosity about the potty. 

• Trying "EC": Some parents choose to try "elimination communication," which is all about learning your baby's cues for needing to go and helping them use the toilet then. 

• Just Waiting it Out: Sometimes, the best approach is to simply wait until your child shows interest and seems ready for potty training on their own. This can make the whole process much smoother. 

• Cheering Them On: Once they are ready, be sure to use lots of praise and positive encouragement when they use the potty! 

Mistake #2: Being Inconsistent 

It can be common for kids who were doing well with potty training to suddenly start having accidents again – this is called regression. Lots of things can cause it, like stress, being sick, or when their usual routine changes. If this happens, try to stick to a regular schedule, give them lots of support, and it might even help to take a little break from training for a bit. 

Why It Causes Regression: 

Having an unpredictable schedule or getting different messages can really confuse your child during potty training. 

Here are some common reasons: 

• Stress: Anything that stresses your child out, like being sick, getting a new baby brother or sister, or having a new babysitter, can cause them to regress.    

• Routine Changes: Big changes in their routine, like moving to a new house or switching from a crib to a bed, can also lead to accidents.    

• Being Sick: Sometimes, just being ill or having issues like constipation can make a child regress.    

• Being Afraid of the Potty: Some kids might develop a fear of the potty, maybe because of a bad experience or just not liking how it feels.    

• Not Being Ready in the First Place: It's also possible that your child wasn't really ready for potty training when you started. 

How to Stay on the Same Page: 

Try to stick to a regular routine and make sure everyone who cares for your child is on the same page so their potty training stays consistent, even when you're out and about. 

Stick to Your Routine: Try to keep following your regular potty schedule, like reminding them to go at certain times, before you leave the house, and before bed. 

 Be Supportive: Give them lots of encouragement and let them know it's okay. Try not to get mad or make a big deal when accidents happen. 

 Maybe Take a Pause: If the accidents keep happening or your child seems really stressed, it might be a good idea to take a little break from formal potty training. You can go back to diapers for a while and try again when they seem more ready. 

 Check for Other Issues: If you think there might be a medical problem or if they seem scared of the potty, it's a good idea to talk to your doctor. 

 Hang in There! Potty training can take some time, and it's normal for kids to have setbacks. Just be patient and supportive and celebrate the little wins! 

 Here are some helpful tips for staying consistent with potty training: 

• Make Things Clear: Let your child know what you expect when it comes to using the potty. 

• Give Lots of Praise: Reward them with praise and positive attention when they have successes. 

• Get Everyone on Board: Make sure all the adults who care for your child (like you, your partner, daycare teachers) are doing the same things for potty training. 

• Do the Same Things Regularly: Keep using the same potty-training methods and try to have a regular schedule for going to the potty. 

Mistake #3: Try Not to Get Upset About Accidents 

So, to make potty training go more smoothly, the key things to remember are to keep things positive and consistent, let your child make their potty their own, and use lots of praise and rewards. Also, try to avoid getting upset or making them feel bad about accidents, and don't be afraid to take a break if things get too stressful. 

Why It Can Make Them Anxious: 

Reacting negatively when accidents happen can make your child feel worried or ashamed about potty training. 

Keep Calm: Try not to raise your voice or get frustrated when accidents happen. Instead, just stay calm and let your child know you're there to help. 

Don't Force It: f your child isn't showing signs of readiness, it's okay to take a break and try again later. 

Be Patient and Flexible: Potty training takes time, and some children may take longer than others. Be prepared to adjust your approach based on your child's individual needs and personality. 

How to Keep Things Positive: Remember, encouragement works better than punishment! Praise them for trying, even if they don't make it to the potty in time. Stay calm and let them know that accidents are just part of learning. 

When you're talking about potty training, it's a good idea to think about the words you use. Try to choose positive words that your family can use for body parts, pee, and poop. It's best to stay away from negative words like "dirty," "naughty," or "stinky" because they can make things feel icky. 

Expert Tip of the Week: Keep it Positive and Consistent!  

So, as you work to avoid those common mistakes, remember that your attitude really matters. Kids can pick up on your mood, so staying calm and encouraging can make a huge difference in making potty training a success. 

We hope this information is helping you gain confidence and knowledge while working with your little ones. Stay tuned for our next newsletter!

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